There was once a time in China when husbands and wives would not see one another until their wedding day. These days, in cities like Shanghai, sex before marriage, while not exactly recommended, has become far more common. However if you look into the countryside or even just tier 2,3,4 cities, lots of newly-weds still lose their virginity on their wedding night, although most of them who come from a city have been cuddling, touching, etc., for a long time before finally crossing the finish line.
This may seem strange to a foreigner. What’s the difference whether people have sex before or after marriage? According to the traditional view, which many Chinese still hold as true, if a girl loses her virginity her value will drop and she wont be able to find a good man.
These social and moral restrictions, combined with highly tabooed sex culture in China, result in many young people reaching their wedding night knowing almost nothing about sex, feeling apprehensive and bashful.
When I was in college, there was one guy in my dormitory who had never seen pornography, never experienced anything sexually, including masturbation, and had no idea what semen even looked like. The rest of the crowd was really no better than him, most of them were utterly clueless about the female anatomy.
Am I getting off subject? What about those crazy games? lol My father worked as a wedding photographer for almost 10 years, and during those years experienced a lot of crazy wedding night games. The games are usually played on the wedding night in their new house, after a tremendous dinner in a hotel, with several close friends and family numbers.
There is always a reason for every thing, even for crazy wedding games. I think people have created these games as a tool to help newly-weds overcome their shyness and also maybe to educate them a bit about sex. So without further ado, here they are:
1. Hang a banana underneath the belt of the groom and ask the bride to eat it. Don’t forgot ask her how good it is.
2. The bride holds something in one hand. She then puts her right hand through the opening of the groom’s right pant leg, and her left hand through the left. Then she must exchange whatever she is holding to the other hand and take it out from the opposite pant leg.
3. Place a bottle of beer on the ground and hang a chopstick from the back of the groom. Have the bride guide him to stick the chopstick into the beer bottle. While the groom is trying really hard to get the chopstick into the bottle, he’ll be continually asking the bride, “Is it in yet?” and when they make it, the bride finally answers, “Yes! It’s in.”
4. Groom and bride sit face to face. The bride takes off her shoes and puts one foot on groom’s crotch, which is called ‘stepping on the gas.’ The groom reaches out his hands to grabs bride’s breasts, which is called ‘steering.’ Two other people stand behind them and push their backs. When the bride gets pushed, she must say “Ri” which simulates the sound of the engine. When the groom is pushed, he says “Bibi” which simulates the sound of a honk. When you play this in a particular rhythm, you will hear them saying one after another:” ri bibi…ri bibi…~~~” (In Chinese, ri means fuck, and bi or B stands for female genitalia.)
5. Put a chopstick into a bottle of beer, leaving only 1 cm outside of the bottle. Ask the newly-weds to work together to take it out with their tongues.